A complete guide to hypnotizing someone


It is easy to hypnotize a person who wants to be hypnotized because, after all, all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. Contrary to popular misconception, hypnosis is not minded control or mystical power. You, as the hypnotist, are primarily a guide, helping the person relax and fall into a deep trance state or waking sleep. The “gradual relaxation method” shown here is one of the easiest methods to learn and can even be used on willing participants without much experience.

Prepare someone for hypnosis

Find someone who wants to be hypnotized.

Hypnotizing someone who doesn’t want to be hypnotized or doesn’t believe hypnosis works is very difficult, especially for a novice hypnotist. Find a willing partner who is willing to be hypnotized and willing to be patient and relaxed to get the best results. Do not hypnotize someone with a mental or psychotic history as this can lead to unwanted and dangerous consequences.

Find a quiet, comfortable space.

The participant should feel safe and free from distractions. The lights should be dim and the room clean. Have the participant sit in a comfortable chair and remove any potential distractions, such as a TV or other people. Turn off all cell phones and all music. Close all windows to keep out noise from outside. Tell other roommates or bystanders not to disturb you until you get out of the room together.

Let the person know what to expect from the hypnosis.

Many people have incredibly misconceptions about hypnosis due to its portrayal in movies and television. In reality, this is largely a relaxation technique designed to help participants gain clarity about a problem or subconscious fear. The fact is, we enter a trance state all the time – in daydreams, when we’re drawn into music or movies, or when we’re “drifting away.” In real hypnosis: you are not asleep or unconscious, never. You are not under a spell or under the control of another person. You never do anything you don’t really want to do.

Ask the person what their goals are with hypnosis.

Hypnosis has been shown to reduce anxiety and worry, and even boost our immune system. It’s great for improving our focus on something, just before a big exam or an important event. It can be used to deeply relax in times of stress. Knowing your partner’s goals can help you get them into a trance state.

Ask your partner if they have ever been hypnotized and how it was for them.

If he has been hypnotized before, ask him what he was supposed to do while under hypnosis and how he responded. This will give you an idea of ​​how receptive the person will be to your suggestions and perhaps what you should avoid doing. People who have been hypnotized before often find it easier to be hypnotized again.

Induce a trance state

Speak in a deep, slow, soothing voice.

Take your time speaking, keeping your voice calm and collected. Make your sentences a little longer than you normally would. Imagine you want to calm down an anxious or worried person and you want your voice to reflect that. Maintain this tone of voice throughout the process. Some good words to start with include: “Let my words wash over you and take my suggestions as you wish.” “All is safe, quiet, and peaceful here. Relax and sink into the couch/chair and relax more and more.” “Your eyes may feel heavy and want to close. Let your body naturally sink into itself as your muscles relax. Listen to your body and my voice as you begin to feel calmer.” “You are in full control of yourself at all times. You will only accept suggestions that are in your favor and that you are willing to accept.”

Ask the person to focus on regular, deep breathing.

Try to get them to take deep, organized breaths in and out. Help the person find regular breathing by allowing them to match yours. You should make this point clear: “Take a deep breath, fill your chest and lungs,” while also breathing in yourself. Followed by an exhale and the words, “Slowly let the airflow out of your chest again, emptying your lungs completely.” Focusing on the breath directs oxygen to the brain and gives the person something else to think about besides hypnosis, stress or the environment.

Have the person focus their gaze on a fixed point.

This can be your forehead if you’re sitting directly in front of it, or a dimly lit object in the room. Ask the person to pick an object, any object, and fix their eyes on it. From this part of hypnosis emerged the cliché of the oscillating clock, a small object that is good to focus on. If the person feels so relaxed that their eyes close, then let them. Watch her eyes from time to time. If they seem to wander aimlessly, give them a little guidance. “Now I want you to turn your attention to that poster on the wall over there” or “try to focus on the spot right between my eyebrows.” Tell the person, “Allow your eyes and eyelids to relax and get heavier.” If you want the person to focus on you, you need to remain relatively still.

Get the person to gradually relax their body.

Once the person is relatively calm, breathing regularly, and attuned to your voice, tell them to relax their toes and feet. Let her just focus on those muscles and then move on to the calves. Tell her to relax her lower legs, then her thighs, and keep doing this until you get to her facial muscles. From there, you can swing back and tackle her back, shoulders, arms, and fingers. Take your time and keep your voice slow and calm. If the person seems restless or tense, slow down even more and repeat the process in reverse order. “Relax your feet and ankles. Feel the muscles in your feet loosen and lighten, like holding them is no longer an effort.”

Encourage the person to relax even more.

Draw their attention with suggestions. Let her know that she feels calm and relaxed. While there are many things you can say to her, the goal should always be to encourage her to go deeper into herself and relax more with each inhalation and exhalation. “You can feel your eyelids getting heavier. Allow them to close and float away.” “You allow yourself to slip deeper and deeper into a calm, peaceful trance state.” “You can feel yourself relaxing. You feel a heavy, relaxed feeling come over you. As I speak, this heavy, relaxed feeling gets stronger and stronger until it carries you into a deep, peaceful state of relaxation.”

Use your partner’s breathing and body language as a guide to their mental status.

Repeat the suggestions a few times, just as you would repeat the verses and chorus of a song until your partner appears completely relaxed. Look for signs of tension in his eyes (do they wander?), his fingers and toes (do they tap or wiggle?), and his breathing (is it shallow and erratic?). Keep working on your relaxation technique until the person seems calm and relaxed. “Every word I speak makes you faster and deeper, and faster and deeper, into a calm, peaceful state of relaxation.” Descend deeper and switch off. Sink deeper and switch off, switch off completely.” “And the deeper you go, the more capable you are of going even deeper. And the deeper you look, the deeper you want to go, and at the same time that experience is always more pleasant.”

Take the person down the “hypnotic stairs”.

Used by hypnotherapists and self-hypnotists alike, this technique is said to induce a state of deep trance. Ask the person to imagine themselves at the top of a long flight of stairs, in a warm, quiet room. With each step-down, the person should feel themselves sinking deeper into relaxation. Each level takes them deeper into their own mind. As the person descends these stairs, let them know that the stairs have ten steps and guide them down each one of them. “Take the first step and feel yourself sinking deeper into relaxation. Each step is a step toward your subconscious. You go down the second step and you feel calmer and calmer. As you reach the third step, you will feel your body floating away blissfully…etc.” It can also help if the person imagines a door at the bottom of the stairs. This door is designed to lead you into a state of complete relaxation.

Using hypnosis to help someone

Understand that telling someone what to do under hypnosis will often not work and is a breach of trust.

Also, most people will remember what they were doing under hypnosis, so even if you make them act like a chicken, they probably won’t be happy about it. However, hypnosis has many therapeutic benefits outside of cheesy Las Vegas shows. Help your subject relax and let go of their problems and worries instead of pranking them. Even well-intentioned suggestions can produce bad results if you don’t know what you’re doing. This is also why licensed hypnotherapists typically help their patients determine the correct course of action, rather than directly suggesting it to them.

Use basic hypnosis to relieve anxiety.

Hypnosis relieves anxiety no matter what suggestions are given, so don’t worry about having to “fix” someone. Simply putting someone in a trance state is a fantastic way to reduce their stress levels and anxiety. The state of deep relaxation without trying to “fix” anything is so rare these days that it can put problems and worries into perspective all on its own.

Tell the person to come up with a solution to the possible problems.

Instead of telling someone how to fix a problem, have them imagine how they’ve already solved the problem. What does this solution look like and how does it feel? How was the way there? What does his preferred future look like? What has to change for this future to happen?

Understand that hypnosis can be used for a variety of mental ailments.

While you should follow the advice of trained mental health professionals, hypnotherapy can be used for addictions, pain relief, phobias, self-esteem issues, and more. While you should never try to “fix” someone, hypnosis can be an excellent tool to help someone heal themselves. Help the person visualize the world behind their problems—show them how to go about their day without smoking, or illustrate a moment that boosts their confidence. Healing through hypnosis is always easier when the person wants to work on the problem before they go fully into the trance state.

Understand that hypnosis can only play a small part in healing a person’s mental condition.

The main benefit of hypnosis is relaxation and some time to safely ponder the problem. It can be deep relaxation and concentration on a problem at the same time. However, hypnosis is not a miracle cure or a quick fix, it is just a way for people to delve deeper into their own minds. This kind of introspection is a critical part of strong sanity. However, serious or chronic problems should always be evaluated by a trained and certified therapist.

End the session

Slowly bring the person out of their trance state.

You don’t want to suddenly shake her out of her relaxed state. Slowly let her become aware of her surroundings again. Tell her that by the time you count to five, she will be fully conscious, alert, and awake. If you feel that the person is particularly deep in a trance, have them climb the “stairs” back up, regaining a little more awareness with each step. Begin by saying, “I’m going to count from one to five now, when I get to five you’ll be completely awake, alert, and completely refreshed.”

Discuss hypnosis with your partner to find out what you can improve on in the future.

Ask him what made him feel good, what jeopardized the state of hypnosis, and how he feels now. This will help you get the next person into the trance state more efficiently and will show you what is and isn’t enjoyable about the process. Don’t push anyone to talk about it immediately after “waking up.” If the person seems relaxed and needs quiet for a while, just start a normal conversation and wait a bit.

Be prepared for frequently asked questions in the future.

It’s useful to have a rough idea of ​​how to answer the following questions because the person’s trust in you determines to a large extent how they will respond to your initiation into the trance state. Common questions that you may be asked at some point during the process include: “What exactly are you going to do?” I’m going to ask you to imagine some pleasant scenes while I talk about how to use your own mental faculties more efficiently. You can always refuse to do anything you don’t want to do, and you can opt-out of the process yourself at any time should an emergency arise. “How does it feel to be hypnotized? “Most of us experience shifts in our conscious awareness several times a day without realizing it. Every time you let your imagination run free and let yourself be carried away with a piece of music or a poem, or you’re so absorbed in a film or television show that you feel like you’re part of the action rather than a spectator, you experience a form of trance. Hypnosis is just a tool to help you focus and consciously determine these changes to use your mental abilities more effectively. ” Is it safe? Hypnosis is not an alternative “state of consciousness” (like sleep) but an alternative “experience of consciousness”. You will never do anything you don’t really want to do or be forced to think against your will. “If I’m just imagining all this, what good will it do me? Don’t be confused by the tendency in German and many other languages ​​for the word “Einbildung/Vorstellung” to be the opposite of the word “real” – nor should you confuse it with the term “image”. Our imagination is a very real group of mental faculties whose potential we are only just beginning to explore, and whose potential goes far beyond the forming of mental images! “Can you make me do things I don’t want to do?” Even under hypnosis, you still have your own personality and are still you – so you won’t say or do anything that you wouldn’t be able to do in the same situation without would say or do hypnosis. You can easily decline any suggestion that you don’t want to accept (that’s why they’re called “suggestions” and not “commands”). “What can I do to better respond to this? In principle, hypnosis is similar to losing yourself in a sunset, or the flames of a campfire, or being carried away by a piece of music or a poem, or feeling part of the action rather than the audience when watching a movie looks at It all depends on your ability and willingness to surrender to the guidance and suggestions that are given to you. “What if I enjoy the state so much that I don’t want to go back? ‘ Hypnotic suggestions are like an exercise for your mind and imagination, much like a script for a movie. But you come back to your everyday life afterward just like you come back at the end of a movie. However, the hypnotist may have to make a few attempts to bring you back. It’s nice to be totally relaxed, but there’s not much you can do when you’re hypnotized. “What if it doesn’t work? When you were a kid, did you ever get so caught up in a game that you didn’t realize your mom was calling you to dinner? Or are you one of the many people who can wake up at a certain time just because they made the decision to do so the night before? We all have the ability to use our minds in ways we are not normally aware of, and some of us have developed these abilities more than others. When you allow yourself to be free in your thoughts and reactions, and to respond naturally to the words and images that are given to you, you will be able to go wherever your mind takes you.


Remember, relaxation is key. If you can help the person relax, you can also help them fall into hypnosis. Don’t be fooled by the mainstream media’s hypnotic sensationalism, which leads people to think that anyone can turn anyone into an idiot with just a snap of their fingers. Before you begin, have the person imagine they are in their favorite place/particularly quiet place. For example in a spa, on a beach, in a park. You can also put on a recording of ocean waves/wind or something else relaxing. Read our blog to learn how to hypnotize a person.


Do not attempt to use hypnosis to treat any physical or mental illness (including pain) unless you are licensed to do so, and is trained to treat these types of issues. Hypnosis should never be used as a “substitute” for therapy or counseling, or to rescue a struggling relationship. Never try to take the person back to their childhood. If you want, you can suggest to her “act like she’s ten years old”. Some people have repressed memories (abuse, bullying, etc.) that you really don’t want to bring to the surface. You have suppressed these memories as a natural defense mechanism. Although many have tried it, post-hypnotic amnesia is notoriously ineffective in protecting the hypnotist from the consequences of his or her misbehavior. If you try to make people do things under hypnosis that they would not normally be willing to do, they will usually just come out of hypnosis immediately.

Frank Reid

Frank Reid is Usevoucher Contributing Writer. He covers a wide range of topics, including financial planning, car reviews, travel, entertainment, and lifestyle. He has an extensive journalistic background, where he's written and reported for several newspapers and magazines. Frank lives in New York, and is a native of Texas.